Positive Parenting: Parent-Child Relationship
When it involves family life, everyone strives to work out how the connection between parents and youngsters can become ideal.
Consider one garden with different kind of flowers becomes beautiful when it blossoms. Similarly, if parents learn how to be a ‘gardener’ and are able to recognize their child’s personality and nourish it, then their ‘garden’ will become fragrant! This is what positive parenting is all about!
When parents starts to understand the balance of where to place boundaries, when and where to encourage, and when and where to discourage, then their children will not get spoiled.
What should be the Role Of Parents In Child Development??
1. Teach the child to face life courageously
The struggle of the butterfly emerging from cocoon makes it strong to face the world, else it'll be crippled. Remember that taking an excessive amount of care of even a toddler may make him crippled. A bit of resistance, struggle, seems to be a blessing for a child’s talent to develop. Always motivate the child before facing any challenge, and never criticize for any failure. Instead, ask them about what lesson they learned or how would they do it next time.
2. Love in one eye and strictness in the other eye
At times, children continue to the incorrect path due to the provocation by parents. Therefore, bring about normality in everything. Maintain love in one eye, and strictness in the other. Strictness does not mean anger, but it means to ‘blow off hot air’.
3. When to encourage and when not to
When something good has been done, then you have to praise him for that. A child will only be good as long as you do not feed water to his ego unnecessarily. If his ego doesn't get food from you, then the child will become inculcated with excellent values
4. Don’t control; Shower Love from the heart
When you speak to your children, it shouldn't be with an authoritative tone. Whenever they create mistakes, explain it with lots of love. You should say it, but there is a way it should be said. You should stop speaking before they close the door on you. If you wait until the point where he is driven to close the door on you, then your words will go in vain. So there should not be any authoritative tone, especially with grown-up children.
5. Maintain Friendship
If you become a friend to your children, they will improve. But if you assert your authority as a parent, you will risk losing them. Your friendship should be such that the child will not go looking for comfort and guidance elsewhere. You should do everything a friend would do, with your child; play games, sports, drink tea together, etc. Only then will he remain yours, otherwise you will end up losing him.
6. Improve Yourself
Pure love will arise within you only when you are pure, i.e., free from anger, pride, deceit, greed etc. If you improve, then everything will improve just by your presence. The one who first improves himself can then improve others. Who can be referred to as improved? Even when you scold, the child will still see the love behind it.